In addition, the lack of attention to the experiences of parents of the child is perceived more as a negation of self-worth. And as a result of the decision problems carried over to physical aggression. Aggressiveness can be, and children whose parents are overly precautionary. Constantly seeking the desired result by using aggression, the child develops a stereotype aggressive behavior. The slightest delay in the implementation of his desires, he starts screaming, stomping their feet, cursing with mom or dad, grandmother or grandfather, it is likely to exercise and physical aggression.
In future, this can lead to manifestations of egocentrism or excessive excitability. Myth 3: Children's aggression to suppress the No! It's absolutely impossible to do! Prevent or force the suppression of aggressive impulses of the child can often lead to autoaggression (ie, would cause harm to oneself) or develop into a psychosomatic disorder. Parents should teach children not to suppress and control their aggression, the right to express their feelings. This can help both sports, and outdoor games, and such techniques as "an angry pillow, you can kick if the" boiling "or" a piece of anger "(specifically filed a pack of sheets of paper, each of which can be torn off, crumple and toss into a corner, thereby removing the stress). Emotional stress is also very well take off paint, which you can draw hands, so-called finger-paint. Better yet, if mom or dad, angry, will be vent anger not on the child, but also kicking the "angry pillow, ripping" sheets of anger "and fingertip paint colors. What to do if a child shows aggression 1.
If a minor outbreak of aggression can be complete disregard for the reactions of the child. The first time you feel it is infinite patience. The next time to calm down, she needs is a lot less time. 2. Expresses the complete understanding child's feelings: "Of course, you hurt ..." "Well helps with minor aggressive reactions, simply switch the child's attention to something else, to offer him something to do, to give you all possible assistance. 3. Label child's behavior positively: "You're angry because he was tired ...." 4. One of the important ways of reducing aggression - the establishment of a child of feedback: "You act aggressively?" (A statement of fact), "Are you mad?" (Ascertaining question), "You want me angry?" (opening motive of aggressive behavior), "I hate when I cry ...." (the definition of their feelings in relation to aggressive behavior), "We agreed with you ...." (Appeal to the rules). 5. Control your own negative emotions! When a child shows aggression, adults experiencing irritation, anger, fear or helplessness. Importantly - to understand that these feelings are natural in this moment, they are normal. When a grown man manages his / her negative emotions, it does not supports the aggressive behavior of the child, and keeps good relationship with him, and demonstrates how to interact with aggressive person. 6. The most important thing - the manifestation of the unconditional love of parents to the child in any situation. We can not allow the following statements: 'When are you lead the way ... then mom and dad do not love you anymore will! ". You can not insult the child, call him. Kick it necessary to the action, the act, taking a child's personality as a whole. Olga Korsak, a psychologist. Especially for Mylife.by
In future, this can lead to manifestations of egocentrism or excessive excitability. Myth 3: Children's aggression to suppress the No! It's absolutely impossible to do! Prevent or force the suppression of aggressive impulses of the child can often lead to autoaggression (ie, would cause harm to oneself) or develop into a psychosomatic disorder. Parents should teach children not to suppress and control their aggression, the right to express their feelings. This can help both sports, and outdoor games, and such techniques as "an angry pillow, you can kick if the" boiling "or" a piece of anger "(specifically filed a pack of sheets of paper, each of which can be torn off, crumple and toss into a corner, thereby removing the stress). Emotional stress is also very well take off paint, which you can draw hands, so-called finger-paint. Better yet, if mom or dad, angry, will be vent anger not on the child, but also kicking the "angry pillow, ripping" sheets of anger "and fingertip paint colors. What to do if a child shows aggression 1.
If a minor outbreak of aggression can be complete disregard for the reactions of the child. The first time you feel it is infinite patience. The next time to calm down, she needs is a lot less time. 2. Expresses the complete understanding child's feelings: "Of course, you hurt ..." "Well helps with minor aggressive reactions, simply switch the child's attention to something else, to offer him something to do, to give you all possible assistance. 3. Label child's behavior positively: "You're angry because he was tired ...." 4. One of the important ways of reducing aggression - the establishment of a child of feedback: "You act aggressively?" (A statement of fact), "Are you mad?" (Ascertaining question), "You want me angry?" (opening motive of aggressive behavior), "I hate when I cry ...." (the definition of their feelings in relation to aggressive behavior), "We agreed with you ...." (Appeal to the rules). 5. Control your own negative emotions! When a child shows aggression, adults experiencing irritation, anger, fear or helplessness. Importantly - to understand that these feelings are natural in this moment, they are normal. When a grown man manages his / her negative emotions, it does not supports the aggressive behavior of the child, and keeps good relationship with him, and demonstrates how to interact with aggressive person. 6. The most important thing - the manifestation of the unconditional love of parents to the child in any situation. We can not allow the following statements: 'When are you lead the way ... then mom and dad do not love you anymore will! ". You can not insult the child, call him. Kick it necessary to the action, the act, taking a child's personality as a whole. Olga Korsak, a psychologist. Especially for Mylife.by
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